Post Wedding Production - Ipoh

Assalamualaikum.

Harini saya nak mempersembahkan "investment" saya untuk wedding saya.

Haa... setelah 3 bulan menanti, akhirnya siap jugak photo dan video wedding kite ni ha.. Although I look superfat dalam video (dengan double triple chinnya), I think the "memories" are bee..auutiful. I watched the video sambil senyum-senyum. I am very happy I invested some expenses to simpan memori ni. 

And untuk pasangan yang nak kahwin, sejujur-jujurnya I would advise korang untuk invest sedikit wang untuk hire videographer untuk abadikan kenangan sekali seumur hidup ni insyaAllah. Ada sesetengah video I tengok, siapa guna dron nak amik aerial shot. Fuhhh cantik sangat... Tak jeles ke tengok video kat IG Hairul Azreen masa dia rakam percutian dia dengan Hanis kat Bora Bora tak lama dulu.. Lawa kan? Cuma sediakan wang sikit la... Dan main ribu jugak lah.. tapi kalau tak mampu, ambik video biasa-biasa pun tak pe.

Saksikanla video I ni.

Wedding I kat Ipoh so as my photographer and videographer adalah based in Ipoh. So harga kat Ipoh tak gegila macam kat KL rasanya.

I share details in my previous post... Do check them out.
Dont forget to view in HD utk kesan efek... ahaks...

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A New Beginning

So it is time to record the memory I have on my solemnization ceremony cum reception.

I did it all in one on the same day untuk mengelakkan penat yang berlarutan.

Majlis di adakan di Villa Chinta Zara pada 24.10.2015.

Segalanya berjalan seperti yang diaturkan. Alhamdullilah.

Majlis bermula jam 9.00 pagi dengan upacara akad nikah dah berakhir dengan resepsi dari jam 12.30 tghr sehingga jam 4 petang.

Jadi, perasaan pada pagi 24.10.2015 cemana? Berdebo ke?

Tak langsung! I woke at 6.00 am, mandi dan bergerak sendirian ke Villa sebab malas dah nak ambil tahu apa jadi kat rumah. Jam 7.00 pagi sampai villa terus kena make up dengan mak andam. I thought 2 jam tu cukup la kan nak make up make up, sekali tak cukup kau.. tahu la muka I banyak jerawat kan? Tacap tu kena extra 1 inci lagi. 

Setelah tok kadi panggil berkali2 maka, perantin perempuan pun keluar la duduk bersimpuh kat pelamin.. Bakal bakal perantin, nanti kan korang kalau duduk atas pelamin jangan la duduk macam duduk antara dua sujud tu, kebas kaki hakak kau tahu???? Elok la bersimpuh agar darah boleh mengalir tanpa gangguan.

Majlis akad nikah berlangsung dalam masa 45 min ke sejam macam tu, or may be less. I am not sure. Tok kadi pun tak de nak tanya soalan pelik2 kat Perantin Lelaki. Adala kata kata nasihat dan doa-doa dibaca sebelum dan selepas akad tu.

Perantin Lelaki biarpun di luar nya nampak gemuruh, tapi steady je jawab akad! Sekali lafaz je, selamat dah jadi suami orang. I yang duduk kat pelamin tu, dalam hati dok kata "Senangnyaaaaaaa menikah..... dengan satu ayat je dah tup tup jadi isteri orang". Oh by the way, it was my father yang menikahkan anaknya ini dengan Perantin Lelaki. Alhamdullillah.. I like it like that. 

Pastu, Perantin Lelaki pun sign la somthing dengan pen RM32.00 yang dibelinya itu. Saje nak stress out harga pen tu sebabnya sehari sebelum, I advised him untuk beli pen yang senonoh sket. Takkan nak pakai pen kilometrico nak sign borang nikah kan? Sekali dia pegi beli pen sampai RM32.00. "__" sabo je la teman..

Kemudian, ada sessi bergambar sikit dengan both my parents dengan persalinan pernikahan dan kemudian dalam 10.30 cam tu keluarga pengantin lelaki pulang semula ke homestay untuk majlis resipsi. 

Perantin lelaki merangkap suami stayed untuk bersiap dengan mak andam untuk pakai songket. So kami pun berkubang la kejap dalam bilik pengantin sementara tunggu majlis resepsi. Nak dijadikan cerita Perantin Lelaki sampai dari KT jam 7 pagi tu. So beliau amatlah lemau. So he took the opportunity to rest his eyes for a bit.

Masa ni jugak lah, kawan-kawan start datang ke bilik perantin. Ahh terujanya.. 

Moving on, the intial plan was to berarak jam 12.30tghr tapi time tu tak de orang pun so kami shift waktu tu ke jam 1.30 tghr. Elok jam 1.30 just as the Perantin stepped inside the khemah, sekali hujan turun mencurah-curah.. sedih tauuuu.. tapi suasana lepas hujan tu sejuk dan damai sangat.. itu kot hikmahnya.. 

Actually I dont remember much tentang hal hal lain kecuali masa akad tu sebab itu je pun moment yang I nak ingat.  
Masa persiapan beriya la hantar design kek kat wedding planner bagai, tapi masa sesi potong kek, I didnt remember pun to look kat the cake. Jangan kata tengok, bila dah hanis majlis, makan kek pun tidak.. Kek pegi mana pun tatahu...

Anyways, thank you to all family members yang made it to our receptions. Seronok sangat. Detik detik macam ni, memang rasa bertuah sangat ada kawan kawan yang ramai dan keluarga yang besar... (well tak de la besar sangat pun) tapi seronok la.. 

So, here I share with you some photos yang harap-harapnya tidak mengganggu mana-mana privasi mana-mana pihak.

Gubahan hantara, kami anak beranak gentel sendiri. Kos pun sendirian berhad, tak de sewa sewa. We are very proud of the outcome.

Disebabkan VIP gifts pun kami gentel sendiri, maka inilah keadaan rumah 2 hari sebelum majlis berlangsung. This is one the many reasons why I did not want to have the wedding at my home.

Photo taken by : Syahir (Motion Touch Cinematography)

satu ofis datang, except for the two staff yang tak dapat hadir,
Thank you guys!

kerusi meja tetamu

doorgifts untuk keluarga pengantin lelaki

with haslinda, yang the night before kabo dia tak dapat hadir pastu buat perantin sedih

My boyfriend of almost 8 years which is now is my husband.
I am so glad we end up marrying each other.

dan ini, satu satu gift yang agak rare yang perantin bagi kat tetamu kanak-kanak sahaja.
Listit!

full view of the kebaya songket that I love so much. Memang asyik mengimpikan traditional wedding dress sejak mula mula bertunang

With the B*Sync girls

Hand henna design and something bling there!

These are just some of the TCS girls who made it to the receptions.

Maizatul was there masa makan beradab.

The morning before I had my face made up, dia texted bgtau dia tak dapat datang.
Aku punya moody, sampai malas nak layan dah.

tetiba dia muncul, terus menangis.. 

Time menikah pun tak nangis tau.. 

Sob sob. Every girl needs her best friend

Inai & shoes

So, if there is any Bride To Be yang mencari pakej-pakej perkahwinan di Ipoh, here I share with you some references

Wedding Planner : Chinta Zara Wedding

Venue : Villa Chinta Zara 

Catering : Chinta Zara Wedding

                 - Tetamu amat memuji masakan catering ni. Dengar kata wedding planner ni guna                      katering Syed. Maybe uols tahu reputasi dia, pada yang biasa dan yang kenal.

Pelamin : Chinta Zara Wedding

Bunga Pahar : Chinta Zara Wedding

Wedding cake : Chinta Zara Wedding

Canopy/Guest Table/Chair : Chinta Zara Wedding

Henna : Lynda Ishak

Nikah

Nikah Dress & Veil : Bride's own

Baju Melayu : Groom's own

Bride's Shoes : Custom-made (youmeandshoes)

VIP Gifts (Nikah) : Chinta Zara Wedding

Videographer : Motion Touch Cinematography

Photographer : Bicara Lensa

Reception

Reception Songket : Chinta Zara Wedding
VIP Gifts (Reception) : Bride's own
Hantaran : Bride's own
Photographer : Bicara Lensa

Guests gift : Oatum Cookies

Terimalah wajah kami... muehehehehe...
Sorry guys, Jangan makan hati.

Officially off the market dah...

Kasih

I just had to share this because it deserves an immediate entry.

We are in the almost final stages of preparing of my upcoming reception. One of it is 'gubahan hantaran'. I had thought of getting professionals to arrange my hantaran trays to avoid troubling my mother and I do not have crafty hands to arrange them myself. I was surveying for reasonable florist/bridal shop to hire when I bought the flowers today.

Mom insisted of doing the arrangements on her own mainly to save cost. While I didn't want to trouble her, she was very keen on doing it on her own.

Took her around 6 hours to complete 8 arrangements out of 9 and the results are just.... magnificent!! The arrangements are gorge!

Thanks Mom! We bicker, we fight! At the end of the day, you just want me to have the best! And these are the best! 

My Engagement Ceremony & The After Party On The Next Day

Assalamualaikum,

Kesimbungan cerita dari entry yang sebelumnya...

Setelah segala persiapan dibuat, barang hantaran telah diaturkan, maka tibalah saat-saat yang ditunggu-tunggu. Fazli, from his homestay was giving me live feed tentang what actually happen kat homestay. So, when he texted that he is on his way, I knew they will be at daddy's house any minute now.

Bersabar menunggu kedatangan rombongan, I could not hide my feeling. Tak makan seharian sebab kalut dan that night, punya la nervous tak ingat. My cousin and my sister dok menselfiekan diri dengan barang-barang hantaran. Abah kata hantaran kita sorok dulu. Nanti dah terima lamaran baru kita persembahkan hadiah untuk mereka. Sama juga anak dara, duduk dalam bilik dulu. Tak perlu nak hemoi sama kat hall tu join perbincangan. In a way, I think it is appropriate for anak dara yang hendak dipinang duduk dalam bilik bersembunyi. Malu tu kan budaya Islam. I see some people tempah pelamin, anak dara duduk atas pelamin menunggu diri dipinangkan, serupa macam nak serah hasil korban pada dewa pulak kekdahnya. Plus, as may some of you might not believe it, I am a very shy person and I do not like being the centre of attention. So, not getting a mini pelamin was the best idea ever.

Ketika rombongan keluarga Fazli sedang berbincang-bincang I let the door of my room terbuka sikit so I can hear apa yang abah bincangkan. Sometimes terdengar bunyi ketawa berjemaah.. Uhhh nervous tak sangat. The discussion took about 30 - 40 minutes before the women from the rombongan swarmed into my room bersama-sama bakal ibu mertua untuk sarung cincin. Oh.. My.. God.. The flashes and the light from handphones amat-amat buat darah gemuruh ku menggelegak. I leaned over to Fazli's mom tanya, "kita kena posing ke Mek?". One lady bersuara,,salam cium tangan Mek.. tahan... tahan.. Ahhhh aaaaa.... 

Kemudian, bila diorang beransur keluar, daddy panggil keluar hall untuk bersalaman dengan tetamu. Seriusly daddy?? Ini ada saat-saat yang paling memalukan dalam hidupku. I mean, everybody was sitting down and I had to go around the house, bersalaman dengan tetamu perempuan. All eyes on me.. Malu gilaaaaa!!! T__T. I also learned that the discussion was written in black and white and signed by wakil pihak lelaki dan my father, just in case.

And then acara makan-makan, time ni paling best sebab rumah tu jadi hingar dan bising. Meriah sangat sangat rasanya. Kami tak tempah canopy pon. Kami stok makan cara orang-orang kampung, makan atas lantai. Memang best, I tell you. Time ni berpeluk-pelukan la sesama sedara. 

Jam 11.00 cemtu majlis pun tamat, barang hantaran telah ditukar dan keluarga fazli pun pulang ke homestay and I finally dapat peluang untuk makan tanpa adabnya. Fuhhh penat okay control hayu!

Okay, let's share some photos from the the ceremony at my father's house. Tapi rasanya lebih kepada gambar hantaran je, aku rasa.

Kak bawah cheesetart tu ada chocolate yang disponser oleh Aini Zahirah. Semoga Allah murahkan rezeki dia.

Dulang cheesecake tu patutnya jadi dulang coklat yang Aini sponsered tapi ada pulak hamba Allah (kawan mak) sponser cheesecake leleh tu untuk diletakkan atas dulang. MasyaAllah murah rezeki, Alhamdullilah.

Riben dan susuan ni, I sendiri yang buat yang bajet-bajet dibuat dengan penuh kasih sayang tu.

This too

Dulang dan gugusan bunga dipinjamkan oleh Alia yang baru je kahwin sebulan sudah. Dan stand dulang tembaga tu kawan mak pinjamkan. Cuma gugusan bunga kat basket muruku tu kami buat sendiri. Gigih jugak la cari bunga seakan-akan bunga Alia. tak nampak beza sangat kan? Thanks to my mother's crafty hands.

Keesokan harinya adalah hari di mana family fazli visit my mother pulak. Mak kelam kabut siapkan rumah. Beli karpet sampai dua kali. Kali pertama sebab size kecik, salah.. Beli la karpet kedua. 

Jam 9.30am rombongan Fazli tiba. I dont know why biarpun event ni hanya untuk makan-makan dan berkenalan je tapi meriah sangat-sangat sangat-sangat. My maksu, paksu dan dua anak dia datang. My Unkle Lemi dan wife dan tiga anak dia datang. Pak Ngah dan Mak Ngah datang. Aunty Gee and Nana datang. Our house is very small. Memang tak cukup untuk menampung 17 ahli rombongan and few more others tapi semua serba menjadi. Family Fazli pun tak de kontrol. Sebab rumah perempuan kan, derang stok main lunjur kaki ke lepas makan. Masing-masing selesa with each other. I am so happy dengan keadaan ni. Initially I was a bit sceptical, ye la kami ni biasa-biasa je, orang bandar. Takut tak boleh ngam tapi rupanya sangat boleh ngam. I didnt take much pictures masa acara makan-makan kat rumah. Particularly sebab tolong ke hulu hilir refill pinggan mangkuk dengan food.

Jemaah yang membantu memperlicinkan majlis mula menjamu selera

my aunt and I.

The food, the food was great. Sangat sedap. Untuk kedua-dua event mother dan father cater food. Kami cuma hidangkan je. I am very happy with how both event turned out to be. Meriah dan sangat sederhana. Tak de pelamin-pelamin bagai. Tak de jurufoto. Make up pun sendirian berhad. Dan of course sebab beberapa ehsan rakan-rakan kasi pinjam itu ini. 

I would not have it any other way. It is not how imagined it would be. It is better.

Benar kata orang, majlis yang sederhana lebih berkat dan I concur with it based on how well it went that two days.

I know it is not fair for me to talk about cost and such since I have few "expensive" cost covered by sponsorship tapi tak salah kan to discuss? But we will get into that in the next entry, kalau rajin bahahah.

Love, 

Munirah

Fasa Sebelum Bertunang : Final Chapter - The Final 72 hours

Assalamulaikum.

Final chapter sebelum bertunang ye?

Ada ke yang nak tanya kos kos, sebab I kan suka cerita tentang kos kos untuk entry entry percutian. Ahaks.

Mungkin later kita bicara tentang kos la kot ye dak.

My final 72 hours

The final 72 hours adalah saat-saat yang mendebarkan for me. Mana tak nya, a week earlier I received an email from SPA Malaysia, di mana I have been scheduled for an interview sebagai Penguasa Kastam di Putrajaya pada 24.10.2014 jam 8 pagi. My majlis was to be held on the same date, at 9.00 pm selepas solat Isyak. I thought of not wanting to go to the interview but masih comtemplating dalam masa 72 jam sebelum majlis berlangsung.

Mom called warning me to be on alert as some of the kids kat my hometown dah dapat panggilan. I, of course didnt tell her that I already have a date sebab I know my mom sesungguhnya akan suruh I pegi up to the point where I believe she would not have any problem to postpone my engagement ceremony.

At time of writing this entry, I am already engaged to Mr. Fazli tapi memandangkan I took an early leave to help my parents prepare for the majlis, I pushed back writing this entry.

Now, I returned to my hometown on Wednesday 22.10.2014 (Deepavali). At this point, I have found my dress but I had not found the perfect pink shawl to match the dress. I spent nearly RM200.00 buying pink shawls only to find that it did not match my dress. Kecewa tau. My dress, beli ready made, di Greentown Mall Ipoh (now known as Angsana, Ipoh). Abah nak warna yang lembut, so I gave him warna lembut. I didnt know that finding that one pink shawl was going to be a hell of a challenge.

So, the plan was, help with whatever I can in preparing for the ceremony (mostly cleaning the house dan moving furniture lah), hunted the final hantaran gift to be placed on the dulang and return to KL (Putrajaya) for my interview, bawak sekali baju tunang to hunt for "that" perfect pink shawl to match the dress.

Thursday came, and I arrived in KL for my interview on Friday with my tunang dress. Bawak la dress tu ke hulu hilir ke kedai-kedai shawl di Shah Alam, and finally found the perfect pink. One problem though. Satu shawl RM55.00, RM100 dapat 4 shawl. Spesis marketing strategi ape ni? I nagged the salesgirl macam ayam bertelur tapi nak tanak since the pink is perfect, I had to buy 4 shawls supaya tak rasa rugi.

Pagi Jumaat, interview pukul 8 pagi, tapi jam 7.46 pagi baru terjaga. Ya Allah rasa nak luruh jantung ku ini. Bergerak ke Putrajaya dari Sunway pada jam 8.30 pagi. Tolak campur sesat dan jam, 9.15 baru sampai Putrajaya dan mujurlah ada lagi yang masih menunggu untuk ditemuduga. I would not get much deeper into the interview sebab ceritanya tentang final 72 hours sebelum bertunang kan?

Fazli's Final 72 hours

Fazli was supposed to hop on to the bus to KT on the Deepavali date to be with his family and as I wanted it, to put his touch to the hantaran gifts yang adik dia sediakan from scratch. But nope, his boss called BEGGING him to cancel his leave and come to work on Thursday. I heard the conversation and I was so mad. The management has been informed of the our ceremony 2 months prior to the date lagi tapi alasan yang management bagi macam la hampagas... Bertunang lelaki tak perlu ada, so Fazli boleh masuk kerja. Fazli mentioned it a couple of times that if he cant take the leave he applied for, he is ready to resign. Aku punya ketaq lutut la dengar.

Tapi Fazli being a responsible person as he is, was willing to compromise. Instead of taking leave just to return to KT so he can travel to Ipoh with his family, he said he could hitchhike with me from Sunway to Ipoh and meet his family there.. After all, I would still be in KL on Friday morning. So, yeah, my hantaran from him, tak de his touch. In fact, dia tak tahu pun rupa hantaran from his side macam mana. Sedih tak?

So on Wednesday and Thursday, Fazli terpaksa kerja. Kesian. Teruk punya management.

Friday : Hari Pertunangan

We both arrived in Ipoh sekitar pukul 2 petang. I showed him his homestay and my father's house in Bandar Seri Botani, Simpang Pulai and I left him at AEON Kinta City so his family can meet him there.

I reached home sekitar jam 3 petang. Mengantuk, penat, keletihan, lemau semua ada. I have two hours to rest and catch my breath and I planned to get ready at 5 pm. My Makngah n Pakngah and Aunty Gee and Nana arrived from KL and Penang. Rumah kami di Taman Jati tu dah sarat dengan manusia. At this point I could not be bothered to practice my lilitan shawl. Berserah la pada yang Esa nak jadi macam mana shawl tu nanti.

Pukul 5, I took my shower and bersiap sedia. I did my make up semua sendiri. Kata nak save bajet kan? Tanpa disedari tengah tengah siap, jam dah tunjuk pukul 6.45 petang. Barang-barang hantaran masih belum load dalam kereta dannnnnnnnn.... pukul 7, hujan turun selebat-lebatnya. I almost cried. Pakngah pulak time time tu la nak semua berkumpul dan berdoa sempena Awal Muharam. Selepas habis doa, I sat in my mom's room, blasting the fan to my face and asked my sister to calm me down because I am about an inch to snap.

They could not figure out of they want to follow me to my dad's house. Mak pulak kata takkan "pengantin" nak drive. Darah manis ni... Semua pakat main tolak tepi sebabnya dia kata "abah dia tak jemput pun". Truth is, my dad invited all of them tapi RSVP taknak pegi sebab it is my dad's house. Jam 7.15 malam, baru la diorang dapat decide nak pegi ke tak. By that time, all of the hantaran telah disquishedkan dalam my MyVi back seat and boot.

7.20 pm, we rushed to my dad's house. Sampai kat rumah my dad dalam jam 8.10 mlm sebab tak boleh nak drive laju2 akibat hujan.

Mujur sesiapa pun tak datang lagi. Jemputan ahli surau dan close family tak sampai lagi. Yang ada cuma my step mom, opah dan catering staff yang dok bawak makanan masuk rumah. So, I entered the house, asked my dad what to do and not, susun my hntrn in the room and waited for the rombongan to tiba, which I am going to write in my next entry.

Hehe, it was pretty hectic our final 72 hours, but perancangan Allah tu indah-indah belaka. I would not change it in any other way.

Wait for my next entry on the Engagement Ceremony. 

Love, 

Munirah

Fasa Sebelum Bertunang : Chapter Two - Persiapan Majlis Pertunangan

Assalamualaikum.

Baiklah. Chapter Two adalah berkenaan dengan persiapan. Niat di hati kalau boleh taknak bertunang langsung sebab dah lama sangat kenal dan nak berjimat cermat. Tapi Daddy kata biarla ada majlis pertunangan. Sekurang-kurangnya ada titik permulaan ke arah persiapan pernikahan nanti. I agreed but I made it a point di mana I dont want the ceremony seperti mini pernikahan di mana ada pelamin tunang dan sebagainya. Nope-nopety No.

Persiapan sebenarnya bermula agak lewat. Majlis dicadangkan berlangsung pada 24 Oktober. Persiapan betul-betul bermula sekitar 18 - 19hb. Initially, we planned not to exchange hantaran and all. Dah katanya nak buat simple kan? Both Fazli & I agreed. Tiba-tiba bila Fazli balik ke kampung, maknya pula teruja. Jadi, kami kat Ipoh ni mula la kalut nak cari hadiah hantaran in exchange to his hantaran. Peracangan asal adalah 5 berbalas 5 tetapi setelah kawan-kawan dapat tahu, ada pula yang nak sponser hadiah hantaran. Alhamdullillah. Maka, nanti akan jadilah 5 berbalas 7 dulang hantaran. Semua serba sederhana.

Now, Everything nampak macam easy peasy, 3 hari dah cukup dah untuk merancang ni.. Oh boy, was I completely wrong about it.

Ada pelbagai perkara yang perlu diberi penekanan. Antaranya :-

HOMESTAY

Keluarga Fazli datang dari Kuala Terengganu. If it was Melaka or Seremban, I would not worry much. Travelling back and forth from Kuala Terengganu to Ipoh ambil masa dan sudah tentunya memenatkan. So, I need to find a homestay in Ipoh, biarpun tak sukar tapi memerlukan masa.

KATERING

Yes, biarpun ini majlis intimate dan tertutup. Katering servis is a requirement particularly sebab I have a very small family and most of my relatives is in Penang. Mom is going to be busy melayan tetamu. To have her to cook for 12 people or may be more sebab my relatives would be coming in our small kitchen adalah sangat mengerikan for her. So, we book a catering service. And this is untuk majlis beramah mesra with my mother the morning after the ceremony which is to be held at my Dad's place.

TEMA HANTARAN

Up until the final minutes, we weren't sure of the theme colors. Semua warna seolah-oleh berkicauan dalam kepala tapi excutionnya amatlah sukar sebab mencari sesuatu yang kena dengan warna yang kita nak tu agak susah dan leceh. Mujur I have a savior. I asked a friend di mana dia shopping barang-barang kahwin. She said, "Mun, ko pinjam aku punya dulang dan bunga sudah. Nanti ko tambah-tambah la sendiri ikut citarasa ko supaya tak sama sangat macam aku punya". Alhamdullillah. Jadi ikut je tema my generous friend tu, Dark Purple dan pink with a hint of whites. Memang my favourite. We improvise from there with ribbons and beads.

HADIAH HANTARAN

Finding items untuk buat hadiah hantaran juga agak mencabar bagi aku. Because I have 7 dulang to fill and I dont have the slightest idea nak letak ape. People say untuk hantaran tunang ni letak la makanan. So, since family yang datang is from KT. Kami plan untuk hadiahnya perkara2 yang berkenaan dengan Ipoh. Starnya adalah Kacang Putih. Ipoh terkenal dengan kacang putih. We went to the "dapur" kat Buntong to get the best dan freshest kacang putih dan muruku. 

Hadiah hantaran from me to Fazli includes:-

- Kacang Putih & Muruku 

- Sehelai T-shirt 

- Chocolate Hand Made - sponsered by Aini

- Blueberry Cheese tart - Ordered from Ummi Ainul

- 3 different cups of chocolates

- Biskut - Mak sponserd

- Sebakul buah-buahan

BAJU TUNANG

Daddy said, biarlah baju yang baru dan manis. He prefers pastel colors plain baju kurung. I do not have plain pastel baju kurung. I hate pastel colors on my body sebab it makes me look thick. It also makes me look pretty girlish. I am more of a solid color punya person. I bought one "Muneera" dress from the Poplook Wedding and Celebration II collection. I was not sure about the size. Sekali terbesar la pulak. Wearable tp tak kemas kat badan. Plus it is in purple. Mak pun tak setuju sebab warna agak gelap. So we went for baju hunting. Mak kata, xpe la dia sponser baju tunang. Setelah diskusi dibuat, we agreed to purchase a lightly beaded baju kurung moden di Angsana Ipoh (previously known as Green Town Mall) dengan harga RM150.00. It is in Salmon Pink.

SELENDANG / TUDUNG

At time of this entry is written, selendang atau tudung masih dalam proses pencarian. Finding a salmon pink shawl is not easy.. T__T

I dont know if I missed anything. Rasanya takde dah kot. Photographer memang takde plan nak hired. Dais tunang pun takde nak photographer mende?? Harap belas ehsan kamera sendiri dan monopod sendiri je la nanti. Bahahaha

Nak dijadikan cerita, I received an email from SPA memanggil untuk interview jawatan Pegawai Kastam yang dijadualkan pada 24th October di PUTRAJAYA. Mak aiii.. Hari bertunang tu. I really want to go. Some say, mungkin kali ni macam akan sangkut interview kali ni sebab saje je Tuhan fatekan jatuh hari tunang kan. Wallahualam. Daddy, biarpun opposing to idea of her daughter joining the government sector memberi idea, perhaps I should write in asking for a postponement. I shall do that. Mak, stok.. no cakap banyak-banyak. You must go katanya. We will arrange everything. Be sure to go to the interview and return to Ipoh safely for your majlis. Amboi..

I am pretty happy how my mother finally actively participate in marrying me off someone else. I thought I had to do it all alone. It turns our mak pulak yang terlebih excited. She bought ribbons and flowers untuk hiaskan dulang and all. Sister got on board jugak biarpun she appears macam taknak kisah sangat tentang hiasan dulang. Overall, I am pretty happy with how everything turns out. I think this preparation gives me and my mother an idea what should we expect dalam persiapan pernikahan nanti. And planning thing last minit memang sangat la tidak digalakkan. I showed my dulang progress to one of my friends yang memang tahu how hard it is to get my parents agreeing to marry me off. She said, berdasarkan hiasan dulang tu, majlis ni bukan la jenis yang simple sangat2. Hiasan cantik dan meriah. I hope Fazli likes my hantaran. As I put it to him, dulang dihiaskan sendiri dengan penuh kaseh sayang.. 

In all seriousness, I thought I would hate rearranging flowers, gluing everything, you know being hand crafty ni. Rupanya bila kita buat untuk diri sendiri, otometik feeling nak yang terbaik tu muncul biarpun kita bukan spesis romantik mak ayam ni. 

Well, itu je la nak bercerita kali ni. No photos this time.

Next entry on majlis mungkin ada. Mungkin je la. Ahaks.

Gosh, lagi 4 hari. Berdebo weh.. Ate citenya macam taknak kecoh-kecoh sebab nak kasi seprais kat rakan-rakan yang kurang rapat tapi perasaan tu macam tak boleh dibendung. Also, I want to document my feeling towards the preparation kan so kalau x share rasa macam kentut tak lawas gitu. I keep instagram, twitter and facebook away from any updates on my preparation though. Harapkan blogger je la sebab my blog basically tak de reader. T__T.

Blessing in disguise, kot ni.

Fasa Sebelum Bertunang : Chapter One - Decision & Ring Hunting

Assalamualaikum,

First and foremost, I never ever ever thought that this day would come where I post tentang pertunangan, perkahwinan dan sebagainya. This should be fun. Being anak sulung, my divorced parents juga mati kutu.

While this has been the topic that my mother avoids, my father has been very into marrying me off to someone. Relinquishing the responsibility to another man, I presume.

Cerita/perbincangan/perancangan untuk berkahwin telah kami (me & Fazli) fikirkan dan bincangkan sejak April 2014 (the month where I turned 30). It was in April, we decided that we want to get married. No yeah, tiada proposal "would you marry me" and sort. Just a simple statement from him "it is time!".

Kami rasa kami biologically ready untuk berkahwin tapi financially memang tidak sama sekali so we decided untuk kumpul duit sikit-sikit. Niat di hati hendak buat sesimple yang boleh dan we did not discuss with our parents yet. Tapi, I have been running here and there fulfilling my dreams to travel as much as I want sebelum mendirikan rumah tangga, so dream nak kumpul duit tu macam tersasar sangat. 

Masuk bulan 6, I thought I let my parents know. Daddy sudah bertanya tentang objective relationship kami yang telah menjangkau usia 6 tahun ketika itu. So, I guess it is perfect time. Daddy took it well. Mom, not so much. It was a battle and a struggle to get her on board. Ada je alasan-alasan yang tidak munasabah dia. Yang paling tak boleh brain is "hang tu tak keje government lagi".. Like whaaat??

To cut the story, sometime around mid August, mother finally approved but still hesitant.  So Fazli & I went ring hunting. To get the perfect ring was not that hard for me. I am not the type yang sukakan aksesori dan to be honest, I not the type yang suka sparkly sparkly ni. So, ring hunting, adalah sangat mudah for me. Kena pulak time tu ada promo Merdeka di Habib, Mydin USJ. Harga, well, since I dont wear accesories and ini adalah majlis risik slash tunang, I figured one grand ring should be fine. Kiranya okay la, satu cincin je.. kasi la yang mahal sikit kan dari kena beli dua ring. Bengkrap kau.

Enter October, when both families have been informed tarikh rombongan akan tiba, the wave and breeze suddenly changed. Perancangan asalnya yang nak buat secara kecil-kecilan antara dia ahli keluarga terapat sahaja bertukar jadi ahli keluarga tak rapat pun tahu. Tapi satu je yang mantain, tiada pelamin tunang. Tiada baju fancy nancy untuk majlis ni. Tapi mother beriya nak hired caterer.

Family Fazli pulak, kami dah pesan bawak cincin je tapi maknya nak bawak lima dulang hantaran. Sudah!! runsing pulak kami fikir apa nak balas. Father kata tak pe lah. Itu tanda maknya excited nak terima menantu. Good sign I guess, ye dak. 

Up to this point, kami sedang memikirkan nak balas apa ke keluarga Fazli. Since Fazli datang dari Terengganu, kami nak kena arrange homestay untuk mereka pulak. Katanya satu van 12 orang akan tiba. Ramai tuuuu. So majlis yang kununnya nak buat very very intimate, jadi medium size punya intimate.

So, I guess this is a new chapter for me. I am excited to be called someone's fiance. Boring jugak jadi girlfriend orang sampai 6 tahun ni. Enter April next year cukup la 7 tahun bercinta. Lama betul jodoh.... baru terfikir nak kawen.

Bizi membina kerjaya, kekdahnya.

Nak Jadi Wife Ke Tanak?

I just turned 28, last 7th April. Its the age when I my mom had me on this very meaningful date of our birthdays.  

The reason for this entry was because I was asked if I am ready to be a wife. Funny.  I dont have the answer to that. Financial-wise,  I think Im doing fine. Ok.. Hal rumah tangga...ok lah.. I like clean house and I do my chores regularly.. Masak.. yea... my biggest concern.. I know nothing.. but I love the Asian Food Channel... so food and kitchen are not my enemies... I love cooking. I just dont have the time to devote myself to be in the kitchen.

And then, one thought came to my mind.. I think being a wife somehow is a job. Then, I remember my first job. I was 24 or 25... somewhere around that age. I graduated and got myself a job with a help from a friend I met at a social forum. I was in Ipoh.. for 18 years, I have never lived alone.. In fact, when I was in the university, I lived in a hostel. They feed us, clean our toilet, u know.. hostels.. how independent can u be living in a place with a warden and a cleaner and a great cook.

I got my first job in KL. PJ to be exact. I'll be living alone, away from my family and I had to start from stracth. I was clueless. I didnt know what to do or what to expect. I came to KL alone... without my mom. I depended on friends, who some cheated on me.. and then I got into the office, and given tasks to complete..and by the 3rd week, I got better at it compared to my day 1.

Now, is it fair if I compared being a wife with being an admin clerk? I didnt know what to do and or what to expect. But I know I had to do it. I think, in a way, it's just the same. Sometimes u just gotta take a leap...dive in and survive and eventually, u'll adapt to the situation and u'll start improving. 

So, if u asked me, will i ever ready to be a wife. I will never be ready to be a wife.. but I'll take the chance to proof that I can be a wife. Its like a lyric in Najwa Latiff's song - "pejam mata dan cuba apa saja".

To me, unless ur mistakes cost someone's life, you can always reverse the effects... but this entry does not change my disbelieve in marriage. I still think the idea of attaching to someone for the rest of my life is ridiculous. I still haven't got reasons to believe otherwise.. It will take someone with superpower to change that... that someone.. who truly deserves me... :p

Love and peace and please respect my 2cents...,

Paranoia

Beberapa minggu sudah, kekasih was caught red-handed ber"mesra" dengan wanita lain (kawan beliau) kat FB chat..

Menurut kekasih, it was a pure, genuine joke antara dua sahabat from tmpt keje yang sama tapi standed le ai perempuan.. over reacting melampau sehinggakan kekasih menjadi serba salah and distracted teruk kat tempat keje..

Yes, kekasih admitted that he went beyond the limit and something called "nakal lelaki" possessed and took over him yang menyebabkan beliau bertindak sedemikian rupa..

I wont take the blame and mengaku that I misunderstood the situation because, I am far more smarter to do something yang most girls do - that is to admit that when your kekasih screws up, it is nothing but your fault.. It was his fault and he went through a horrible week trying to fix it.. I wont take the blame for it either because you shouldnt do a crime if you cant do the time, if you know what I'm saying??

So yeah, kekasih convinced me that it was unintentional bla bla bla...(but am I convinced?)

You see, we have been together for 3 years and it had been a looong hundreds of days we went through without him screwing up.. and to catch him doing something like that memang tak pernah diduga sebab it is not his nature selama 3 tahun tu... I can be sure, fricking sure, that itu bukan habit dia..

So dalam keadaan yang bengang.. i have no choice but to forgive him..but that doesnt mean that I must forget about it..

And that has become a problem because it has turned into a mild paranoia...

I dont know how not to forget about it and create a thin line there from stepping into the paranioa zone because clearly, i think I have become a little paranoid tentang the idea of him, ada kawan perempuan.

Each time he has unfamiliar girl names with cute profile pictures di frenlist dia, i misti akan tanya dia... and i have become a person i truly hate sebab i was not ever like that sebelum kejadian chatting bersama rakan setempat kerja di atas..

Why has this suddenly become a problem.. Kalau i diletakkan kat tempat dia.. I confirm akan lemas but I cant help it. He said please jgn berhenti percaya kat dia but percaya is something earned, not something you give away sesuka ati right?? and he repeatedly said that it was an honest mistake and i should believe him, shouldn't i?

So, tonight I browsed frenlist kat FB kekasih and ada he has few newly approved friends.

One friend caught my eye... Nama setended la budak2 sekarang guna.. elisha la felisha.. bangsa sha sha ni.. and she had a very cute profile picture.. gatal je tangan nak terus telepon kekasih dan interrogate dia.. 

Kekasih cakap tak kenal.. then i asked if tak kenal how come u add dia?

Kekasih kata dia nak tambah kawan.. kawan dia sikit sangat kot..

So i said, why must add awek2 chun?

He said most probably sebab budak tu kawan kepada kawan dia kot..

And kekasih terus begged.. please la percaya kat dia and that he wont do perkara2 yang bodoh lagi.. 

And i have this weird habit where I TRULY HATE LELAKI YANG COLLECT AWEK CHUN KAT FB.. You think this type of guys tak exists, it does.. cemana nak tau.. Browse through frenlist dia and you can see rakan2nya tergolong daripada awek2 yang posing maut dan yang cantik2 belaka.. Kawan lelaki secoet je.. Most of the time they dont even have guts pon tak tegur awek2 ni.. just cukup sebagai koleksi je.. Mereka ini saya bilang LOSER gila.. 


Here are some example taken from a friend dalam my frenlist (who claimed to be satu faculty with me sebab ramai kengkawan dia adalah kawan faculty i)

Now... may be a few dalam newly added frens ni ada his friends... tapi mostly awek je kan? Perasan tak??

Since I have that habit, I dont want la kekasih jadi orang cem tu.. Tak best la kan.. Nak nak terpampang dia "in a relationship" with me.. And that makes me a loser as well..

So he said nicely and calmly, asking me to trust him and stop jadi paranoid... 

After 11 minutes of pondering (while he was waiting on the other end of the phone).. I said ok.. Walau cemana pon, I have to say I trust him sebab to cling to every bits of his life akan buat dia rimas betul?

And that's how this entry comes into existence...

The questions I have in mind are:-

1) Am I really scare of losing him; or

2) Am I scared that I lost control of our relationship?

I love him so frickin' much but I dont really show it sebab sejarah mengajar byk benda (of which Im not going to waste my time, writing them here)..

And I need to set a line and maintain in the zone where I take care of my relationship enough and step out from the paranoia zone yang, well, blh membunuh tu..

Then another question comes

HOW DO I DO IT??

Much Love + Respect,