Monday, October 13, 2014

Fasa Sebelum Bertunang : Chapter One - Decision & Ring Hunting

Assalamualaikum,

First and foremost, I never ever ever thought that this day would come where I post tentang pertunangan, perkahwinan dan sebagainya. This should be fun. Being anak sulung, my divorced parents juga mati kutu.

While this has been the topic that my mother avoids, my father has been very into marrying me off to someone. Relinquishing the responsibility to another man, I presume.

Cerita/perbincangan/perancangan untuk berkahwin telah kami (me & Fazli) fikirkan dan bincangkan sejak April 2014 (the month where I turned 30). It was in April, we decided that we want to get married. No yeah, tiada proposal "would you marry me" and sort. Just a simple statement from him "it is time!".

Kami rasa kami biologically ready untuk berkahwin tapi financially memang tidak sama sekali so we decided untuk kumpul duit sikit-sikit. Niat di hati hendak buat sesimple yang boleh dan we did not discuss with our parents yet. Tapi, I have been running here and there fulfilling my dreams to travel as much as I want sebelum mendirikan rumah tangga, so dream nak kumpul duit tu macam tersasar sangat. 

Masuk bulan 6, I thought I let my parents know. Daddy sudah bertanya tentang objective relationship kami yang telah menjangkau usia 6 tahun ketika itu. So, I guess it is perfect time. Daddy took it well. Mom, not so much. It was a battle and a struggle to get her on board. Ada je alasan-alasan yang tidak munasabah dia. Yang paling tak boleh brain is "hang tu tak keje government lagi".. Like whaaat??

To cut the story, sometime around mid August, mother finally approved but still hesitant.  So Fazli & I went ring hunting. To get the perfect ring was not that hard for me. I am not the type yang sukakan aksesori dan to be honest, I not the type yang suka sparkly sparkly ni. So, ring hunting, adalah sangat mudah for me. Kena pulak time tu ada promo Merdeka di Habib, Mydin USJ. Harga, well, since I dont wear accesories and ini adalah majlis risik slash tunang, I figured one grand ring should be fine. Kiranya okay la, satu cincin je.. kasi la yang mahal sikit kan dari kena beli dua ring. Bengkrap kau.

Enter October, when both families have been informed tarikh rombongan akan tiba, the wave and breeze suddenly changed. Perancangan asalnya yang nak buat secara kecil-kecilan antara dia ahli keluarga terapat sahaja bertukar jadi ahli keluarga tak rapat pun tahu. Tapi satu je yang mantain, tiada pelamin tunang. Tiada baju fancy nancy untuk majlis ni. Tapi mother beriya nak hired caterer.

Family Fazli pulak, kami dah pesan bawak cincin je tapi maknya nak bawak lima dulang hantaran. Sudah!! runsing pulak kami fikir apa nak balas. Father kata tak pe lah. Itu tanda maknya excited nak terima menantu. Good sign I guess, ye dak. 

Up to this point, kami sedang memikirkan nak balas apa ke keluarga Fazli. Since Fazli datang dari Terengganu, kami nak kena arrange homestay untuk mereka pulak. Katanya satu van 12 orang akan tiba. Ramai tuuuu. So majlis yang kununnya nak buat very very intimate, jadi medium size punya intimate.

So, I guess this is a new chapter for me. I am excited to be called someone's fiance. Boring jugak jadi girlfriend orang sampai 6 tahun ni. Enter April next year cukup la 7 tahun bercinta. Lama betul jodoh.... baru terfikir nak kawen.

Bizi membina kerjaya, kekdahnya.